How Do You Feel About Biracial Children?
I’m white and my husband is black, and we live in an area where there are not a lot of black people, so we get a lot of strange stares and rude comments. We want to have children, but I’m kind of afraid of what they will have to deal with when they get to school. How do you feel about biracial children?
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Posted on November 1st, 2009 at 8:03 pm
I don’t have a problem with it but if you live in an area where it may be an issue you’ll need to be ready to explain to your kids that sometimes people are stupid about such things and they need to be strong and not let it bother them.
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 1:43 am
Personally, I have nothing against biracial children. But, it’s very common for people to be… well, rude. Growing up, it was never something that I even noticed, but I know that my parents noticed… My best friend in elementary school was biracial. I remember running away when my parents told me she couldn’t come over our house for my birthday party because they simply didn’t want to be associated with “her kind”. We went to a private school in a rural area, and she switched schools in 4th grade because of all the negativity she was getting about her race.
One thing I could think you could do is to adopt a child with one of your races, but there’s nothing you can do to avoid people being people. Even then, they’d be bugged about having multi racial parents. Just don’t let that stop you from having children. You’re in love, and you want kids… there’s nothing wrong with that.
Btw, biracial children, and children of parents of different races aren’t the only kids that get teased in school. Bullies will find something to pick on them about no matter what.
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 3:59 am
I think biracial children are unique. When black people have opinions of whites and vice versa your children won’t have that that as they are both, when they are at school and a black person picks on them they can tell them they’re black like if a white person called them names about being black they can tell them they’re white. A world of racism has decreased for a while now with the great help of Nelson Mandela. I am from the UK and we get hardly any racist remarks from the area I live in. I am 16 and in my last year of school, in my year (Americans would say grade) there are only 2 blacks 3 years (grade) below me i’d say 10% are black. Society is changing and I don’t think you will have that problem.
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 7:32 am
I think they are wonderful! First of all, all kids start out wonderful until the world messes them up. And secondly – the sooner we have a lot of biracial children running around, the sooner they will become more accepted in general. And maybe that will help lead to the end of race having so much to do with how a person is identified.
… Come to think of it, I smile almost every time I see any kid.
I personally probably won’t end up with any biracial children. But I almost always smile when I see them
Ya know? I think it’s odd. I know my family doesn’t mean to be racist or anything. But their comment when it comes to biracial children is that they are against it. Not because they think black people are bad, but because the children will be given such a hard time and not know which group to identify their self with. … I think getting over this fear of being treated ‘different’ is a big step toward acceptance.
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 1:47 pm
You shouldn’t care what others think about biracial children. If you are in a neighborhood where u are thinking that it may cause problems for your children then you may want to wait and have kids until you move from that area. There are biracial kids and families all over the world so I think now they are accepted like any other race. When becoming a mother u have to do what u feel is right for your kids but don’t worry about what others say cause they would still talk if you were black with a black man. I wish you and yours the best of luck!
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 3:28 pm
coming from a “kids” perspective, i have no problem at all with them. my parents are just like you and your husband, my mum’s white, and my my dad’s black. i’m sure they’ve faced just as many hardships as you guys have. but my parents had me and my brother at a time where it was more so “looked down” upon, during the late 80s/ early 90s. my mum was pregnant with me during the rodney king riots and they had to leave town in case something bad happened.
i dont think that biracial children will have any more difficulties than that of a sinlge race child. i’ve never had to deal with any racism.
just remember to teach your kids, which im sure you do, that they have to be proud of who they are, and support both ethnicities, not just one. they have to be like “i’m biracial, you can except me as i am, and if you dont like it then so be it.”
everyone is going to experience discrimination at some point in their life. i don’t think it will ever stop.
but like i said earlier, biracial children are just as normal as any other children. and who’s to say what’s normal? you love who you love, and if they dont like it, then screw them.
just have your kids stay true to themselves. stand up for themselves.
biracial kids are just fine. i love them, especially since my brother and i are biracial.
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 6:54 pm
i think all children are beautiful. If i get ugly looks and rude comments where i live, i can imagine what you’re going through. I get that kind of stuff, cause i’m mexican and my husband is white. I hate when people stare and give me ugly looks. It’s not toward him, it’s towards me cause i’m mexican i guess… but anyway, you shuldn’t let what people think get in your way. but to be honest you know that your children will get messed with or something one day something racial will be said, so you will have to learn to deal with it. maybe you should try moving somewhere different? But i thin no matter where you go, you will have one problem or another. I just learn to ignore stupid people. There’s not much you can do, but love your children. Have some beautiful biracial kids!
Posted on November 2nd, 2009 at 10:13 pm
I can give you a unique point of view- I’m a biracial child. Well, more than biracial, multiracial. I have lots of heritage in me. I have White, Mexican and Cuban in me. I look Latina and everyone always says that the color of my skin is so beautiful. I’ve never once heard a racist comment, it’s 2009. I don’t think there’s too much of that around anymore. If anyone gives your child any trouble over this, report it, it’s a serious offence.
Posted on November 3rd, 2009 at 2:04 am
My daughter is biracial. I live in the south how do you think I get looked at?!
Now I’m not married to her “sperm donor” in fact my husband is white paint that picture. We always get the look. The best look was from a black family we were coming out of the movies and I was about 7mths pregnant w/ our son, Ashlee was in the middle holding our hands…they kept looking at us, back at Ashlee, then at each other…it was classic.
When I was a single mother, Ashlee was about 2 1/2 I took her for ice cream and I had some moron ask me if she was mine or if I adopted her. I gave his wife a quick look and commented to him that “she is all mine jackass.”
There are always going to be ignorant people in the world, but we can not stop living our lives because of them.
Posted on November 3rd, 2009 at 5:09 am
My nephew is biracial, and our very good friends’ children are biracial. I feel no differently about biracial kids than I do about any other kid. Anybody who would isn’t worth your time. And I’d just observe that kids generally are not natural racists (that takes some teaching), so I wouldn’t worry too much about your child in school.
One would hope that with Obama as president this dated issue is fading a little bit into the background?
Posted on November 3rd, 2009 at 7:13 am
Well first off, I think that they are so pretty. I love the idea of blending races. It comes out so unique and unbelievably cute. If it were possible i would like to have a baby with as much as different races so as to see how beautifully cool they all are. But of course that’s wrong in so many different levels.
Secondly, I don’t know why you would even ask this question. If everyone here answered that it’s not cool to have a biracial baby would you not have one? Seriously you baby is yours who cares?!?!
Posted on November 3rd, 2009 at 11:52 am
first of all jen what an adorable beautiful baby you have!
i cant wait to see the beautiful children we will make. Also they will be privy to twice the cultural experience…
I love biracial children, they get the best of both worlds and are always so beautiful! My fiance is European, tall dark and handsome, and i am black-carribean and i model so i hear im easy on the eyes
Posted on November 3rd, 2009 at 6:37 pm
Bless your heart! I know what you mean. I adopted a biracial child when she was a newborn and the looks white people gave me! Not just looks, glares and wouldn’t turn away! I made a point to live in a multiracial community and chose the same type school where biracial children weren’t uncommon. You have to educate your child from day one because the subject comes up sooner than you think among children.
Posted on November 3rd, 2009 at 9:38 pm
To be racist in general is terrible but to direct hate toward a child is just plain awful. those people should have disclaimers with everything they say. Anyone who was mean to a child because of the color of his/her skin is wrong on some many levels that their opinions on everything should be considered flawed.
If you and your husband love each other and want a baby, may you be blessed with one.
Good luck to you!
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 1:11 am
biracial issues are on their way out. you might still get funny looks, but as soon as you have children (for the most part) people will become used to it and it wont be a big deal.
i live in an area that is known (regretfully) for issues of race and while some people might not agree with it, no one makes it an issue
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 6:57 am
They are perfect! My husband is black-I’m white, we have 2 little boys and #3 (don’t know gender) on the way…we live in a very diverse area (Kansas City, MO) but we still get the stares, as far as I’m concerned-people can kiss it! Skin is just a color and if people don’t get it–they’re too ignorant to ever understand!
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 11:01 am
I don’t have a problem with them. If you and your husband are good, loving parents, then teach the kids that they will sometimes meet people with old-fashioned, ill-informed opinions, and that they should just say, “I’m sorry you think that’s wrong”, or something like that.
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 11:58 am
I love them–being that my daughter is biracial! It’s a lot more common these days. I thought about those same issues, but we plan to be very supportive of her (of course) and raise her with high self-esteem and close family so that it will be less difficult. All kids get teased and go through different stages.
Raise him/her to be a good person. That’s all that matters in the long run.
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 12:01 pm
They are beautiful my niece/god daughter is biracial. Anyone who makes a rude racist comment is an a**! All children are a blessing no matter who they come from. BTW…my niece is adopted and both parents are white. It was never an issue with our family.
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 4:21 pm
I personally think biracial babies are always way cuter maybe because they are more unique looking than just a single race child. I am white and my bf is mexican and I know our baby will be gorgeous. All of my family is white/white babies and I think biracial ones are better
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
My child is my child, the color of their skin wouldn’t matter at all to me. We have every race mixed every way in my town.
But seriously it is 2009. If someone gives your kid trouble in school tell them to get over themselves… the color of someone’s skin shouldn’t matter.
Posted on November 4th, 2009 at 10:24 pm
I feel the same about them as I do any other children. It’s none of my business what their ethnic backgrounds are. Hopefully the people you encounter who are mean like that will keep their judgemental racist mouths shut and let your children be.
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 3:41 am
They are children too, just like every other child. I would hope that no one would treat them different or be rude to them. They are humans too
Don’t let other peoples opinions and comments stop you from having children with someone that you love. Good Luck!!
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 4:38 am
im biracial my mother is white my dad is mexican….i dont think it should matter, kids will make fun of any child for being different. if ur husband was white they would prob find something else to tease about thats how kids are.
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 5:20 am
I feel that people that look at color are petty and you are better off without them…I think if you both love each other and want a family then you should go for it….Your child will be a stronger and better person to just ignore those people….
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 10:17 am
To me, biracial kids are even cuter!! We didn’t have a lot in my class, but my sister had a few. I don’t think they were treated unfairly.
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 11:12 am
I think that’s lovely.When two people fall in love that’s what matters.Not the color of your skin.I have friends of every color and I am proud of it.
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
honestly i think they make the prettiest babies lol but that’s life. do what makes you happy and don’t worry about others thoughts. good luck and God bless.
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
well im mexican and my husband is white and we are about to have a lil boy next month which will be biracial and who cares what people think as long as you love your children and your husband
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
I don’t think you should not have kids just because of ignorant people in your neighborhood. Children are a blessing no matter what color they are.
Posted on November 5th, 2009 at 7:22 pm
the’re cute!